Distance Thinking: How to Live in Ambiguous Relationships by Shinya Aoki - Relationship Guide for Modern Couples, Long-Distance Lovers & Complicated Situations

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Is it really that important to be closely connected?
Family, work, lovers...Reliable relationships can sometimes become a heavy burden.
When people get too close, they become dependent on others and aggressive.
What we need is not an easy connection.
A "distance" that is convenient for us.
We can help each other while maintaining a certain "distance."
Not clingy, but not shallow.
An ambiguous relationship where we only meet when we want to.
That is the "family" that Aoki Shinya seeks.
The lonely fighter Aoki Shinya proposes relationships for a new era based on the "distance thinking" he learned from the battlefield.
His feelings about his own divorce, the ring and fear,
what he learned from the famous Kendo Kashin...
Aoki Shinya's philosophy, born from how to maintain "distance," is a guidepost for walking through an uncertain world.
Also included is a family roundtable discussion between Takahiro Miura, a key member of the "Aoki Family" and creative director of "The Breakthrough Company GO," and Nobuyuki Onisawa, chairman of "Anzu-kai An Clinic," also known as Dr. Servant, who is attracting attention in the world of home medical care.

Read it and you'll understand.
We are a family.

<Table of Contents>
Introduction ~Ambiguous and convenient relationships are necessary in life~

Chapter 1: Family, this wonderful ambiguous relationship
She, who is neither a wife nor a family member, called herself "family"

Can you realize that you are alive because of someone else's existence

You can trust someone who has made a mistake once

Human relationships are like planets...etc.

Chapter 2: Is loneliness scary?
You can live on your own axis if you don't hang out with others

Tame the tension and fear that loneliness brings

Keep your distance

Only those who have deepened their loneliness can have sharpened words

Humans are multifaceted creatures. Even if you say bad things about me in other places, it's okay as long as you're a "good guy" in front of me...etc.

Chapter 3: The mentality of a fighter

Those who have nothing to lose are the strongest

Deceive yourself into being positive in order to overcome fear

Live your life while being conscious of your "rank"

The culture of "putting your opponent in a good light" that I learned from pro wrestling...etc.

Chapter 4: To be free
Freedom lies beyond the balance of connection and solitude

You should not exchange money for freedom

The way to close the distance with your opponent is "slowly and closely"

Don't seek more ties than necessary

Special edition: Aoki Family roundtable

In conclusion
~The tolerance of "that's fine with you"~

About the Author:

Born May 9, 1983. Originally from Shizuoka Prefecture. Started judo as an elementary school student, and was selected as an All-Japan Junior Training Athlete in 2002. Switched from judo to mixed martial arts while attending Waseda University, winning the Shooto middleweight world championship. After graduating from university, he got a job at the Shizuoka Prefectural Police, but quit after two months to return to the world of mixed martial arts. He went on to win the world lightweight championship in DREAM and ONE FC.

Language: Japanese

208 pages

Printed in 2020